For Partners
Feeling stuck in your relationship?
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner(s)? Is the intimacy gone, or do you both have completely different desires? Are you not enjoying the sex you are having? Is one of you wanting to have sex while the other is not so interested (anymore)? Have you tried to talk about it, but nothing seems to be working? Or is it hard to talk about this at all? Then my coaching & counselling might just be the thing for you. We will look at where you are stuck and where you want to be individually and as a couple. I will teach you skills and techniques to get you to the next level in your connection.
Moving forward
I believe that ongoing intimacy that deepens over time needs the capacity to hold on to yourself while staying open to the other. To create a better connection, it is first of all important for each of you to connect to your own desires and wishes and look at what is holding you back. From there, you can create the capacity to really be open to one another. This gives space to come up with creative solutions for the problems you're dealing with. It’s not always easy, but with the skills and techniques that I will teach you surprising solutions often occur.
Getting help for your relationship can be a scary thing! It’s vulnerable to open up to a stranger about things you are unhappy with. You might fear you need to change in a direction you really do not want to go and lose control of the process. In my sessions, there is a focus on where each of you stands individually. The patterns where you are stuck come from places that make sense for who you are as a person. We will acknowledge them and look at the direction in which you want to develop. This builds a bridge to the future and leads to practical tools you can use to get there and create a deeper intimacy and connection between you. Compromises are important in relationships, and in this process, it's always also up to each individual where they want to go with it.
When you decide to work with someone, seeing if the approach speaks to you is important. Even more, it’s important to have a click and feel comfortable with the coach/counsellor/therapist. If you're interested in working with me, book a free 30-minute online introduction call. That way we can get to know each other and see if we are a fit. I’m looking forward to meeting you!
Key Elements
CLEAR GOALS
We will start with where you want to be as partners and look at each of your individual goals to really make sure all your priorities get attention in the sessions.
FACING THE DIFFICULTIES
Addressing difficult issues is not easy! I will teach you skills to stay present and connected during the harder conversations.
‘FIGHT’ DIFFERENTLY
Conflict and disagreement are part of every relationship at times. How you handle them can make a huge difference in the outcome.
UNTANGLING THE ISSUES
In intimate relationships, things can easily get entangled and unclear over time. We will take time to get clarity on what belongs where.
CHANGING PATTERNS
I will coach you on how to create new interaction patterns and stop unproductive communication methods.
SKILLS
You will get tools and techniques that will last you a lifetime. Tools that will continue to help you maintain and develop your connection.
What people say about me
"You held us so beautifully and without a shred of judgment.
"I realised that the part of me that stops me from realising what I want, is doing this in a protective manner. Connecting to it helped me redirect it to a purpose that allowed a meaningful dance between caution and optimism.
"You guide through skillful questioning and associations to let us realise our own truths.
Practical info
Sessions can be done online or in my practice in Amsterdam City Centre. For online sessions, ensure you have a good internet connection and a place where you have privacy and cannot be interrupted. If possible, make sure to have a bit of space to move around.
You can find information on the sessions and pricing here. Interested? Book a free introduction call below. I’d love to talk to you and see if we are a good match!
Book a free introduction call
Are you interested? Book a 30-minute free online introduction call. You can get your questions answered and see if this is what you are looking for. No strings attached. Promised.