Ready to Really Tackle the Tough Issues in Your Relationship?
Looking For Help With Your Relationship?
A good relationship needs both safety and the ability to take risks. Daring to speak up about what you really want, even when things get intense. And at the same time, feeling safe and secure with your partner(s). I help you find the right balance between these two elements. Whether you are looking for more depth in your relationship or want to tackle long-term problems, I have the tools, knowledge and experience to take your relationship to the next level. I can help you with:
Deepening Your Connection
Things are going well, but some cracks are showing. You want to work on these before bigger holes appear. Good plan. The sooner you address these, the easier it is to prevent bigger suffering. More importantly, you will learn skills that will help you keep the relationship alive, intimate, and connected for a lifetime.
Improving Your Communication
You either live separate lives or are having lots of arguments. In both cases, it is essential to deal better with conflicts. I have the right approach for this. In addition to active listening, you will learn to really explore themes together and to remain true to your own and each other's desires and boundaries. Even when the tension rises.
Dealing With a Big Issue
You are facing a significant issue that you each deal with differently. Differences of insight about money, the future, intimacy, raising children, dealing with family, illness and death. You name it. I help you have constructive conversations with attention to everyone's story and interests.
Whether or Not to Open Your Relationship
It’s wise to have good conversations about this in advance and to make good agreements. This is not always easy. I am in favour of conscious relating, but I have no opinion about whether a monogamous or a non-monogamous relationship is better. I can help you have this conversation in a deep and constructive way. Also suitable for other questions about your relationship structure and Consensual Non-Monogamy.
‘Do We Want to Stay Together or Not?’
That's a good question, and it's good thing that you’re talking about it. We will explore your desires and doubts and see if, and how you want to continue.
Sexual Challenges
Are you no longer interested in sex? Does your body no longer ‘works’ like it used to? Or you both want something very different in the bedroom (or outside of it)? Not easy, but also very normal. I cannot emphasise it enough: there is often much more possible than you think. I help you to reshape your intimacy. Also suitable for questions about asexuality.
Know that I will never ask you to do something you don’t want. Consent is key. That is true for all topics.
Something Else?
Are you dealing with something else and wondering if I can help? Send me a message here, or book a free introduction call.
Key Elements
CLEAR GOALS
We will start with where you want to be as partners and look at each of your individual goals to really make sure all your priorities get attention in the sessions.
FACING THE DIFFICULTIES
Addressing difficult issues is not easy! I will teach you skills to stay present and connected during the harder conversations.
‘FIGHT’ DIFFERENTLY
Conflict and disagreement are part of every relationship at times. How you handle them can make a huge difference in the outcome.
UNTANGLING THE ISSUES
In intimate relationships, things can easily get entangled and unclear over time. We will take time to get clarity on what belongs where.
CHANGING PATTERNS
I will coach you on how to create new interaction patterns and stop unproductive communication methods.
SKILLS
You will get tools and techniques that will last you a lifetime. Tools that will continue to help you maintain and develop your connection.
What People Say About Me
"You held us so beautifully and without a shred of judgment.
"I realised that the part of me that stops me from realising what I want, is doing this in a protective manner. Connecting to it helped me redirect it to a purpose that allowed a meaningful dance between caution and optimism.
"You guide through skillful questioning and associations to let us realise our own truths.
Book a Free Introduction Call
Are you interested? Book a 30-minute free online introduction call. You can get your questions answered and see if this is what you are looking for. No strings attached. Promised.